No Expectations, No Disappointments

We all have preferences or things we look for in our relationships, jobs, lifestyle, etc. but when these preferences turn into expectations, that is when things can turn problematic.  The difference between a preference and an expectation is that you are able to live with and work around your preferences but with an expectation it is more of an all or nothing attitude.  This attitude will almost always end in disappointment because it is only limited to your ideal of the way things are supposed to be.  I think it is very healthy to embrace our differences in a relationship or situation.  It teaches us conflict resolution skills and can open our minds to new ways of thinking.  You don’t have to agree with the differences but you should at least try to respect it.  However I do believe there are some things you should never have to compromise especially if it goes against your personal morals or ethics.  For example, finding out your friend is a racist.  Maybe you can help your friend see the light but if they can’t then you shouldn’t have to put up with it.  Also there are many times when you just simply realize that a relationship or situation just isn’t for you and that is perfectly fine too...if you don’t jive, you don’t jive.  But if you value the relationship, a foundation of compromise and trust is key.👩🏻‍💻

Reflecting Thoughts

Yesterday I touched up on my business journey through the years.  As with anything in life there will always be highs and lows.  I think when things got busy especially during the bracelet years, it started to feel more like a job and I started to lose interest.  I didn’t feel like I was doing it for me anymore, like the creativity part of it was gone.  But I wouldn’t change a thing about my journey.  I’ve always had it in the back of my mind that I would come back when the time is right.  It was and will continue to be a great experience as I continue to grow & learn.  I am very proud of what I have accomplished and how I used my gut instincts to make most decisions.  It has definitely made me more confident in myself as I discovered many skills/talents I didn’t know I had.  And to this day it still makes me very happy when I make a sale.  It just amazes me that someone would want to wear something I made.  I’m not talking down on myself, it is more like a “thank you so much for liking something that I made!” type of feeling.  I mean there are literally thousands of people out there wearing or have worn something that I’ve made.  It’s like a part of me is with all these people and that’s cool as shit if you think about it.  

So next entry I would like to come up with some ideas I would like to focus on.  I’m still enjoying my knitting projects but not quite ready to dig back into jewelry yet but I definitely will eventually.  Until next time!